This morning I have overheard one of those things that make you really angry. It’s called judgement. The workers outside my property (a leasehold flat) have taken to making an assumption of myself and surrounding residents based on the area we live in.
The area is 1 of 2 areas in Brighton that have Council Estate Stigma attached to them. There are and have been situations that attribute to the stereotypical view of a council estate. However I feel that it’s no reason to be a justification of judging me, my family and other residents.
‘Don’t leave that there, it’s ******, it will get nicked’ Well really?
I often get angry at the way I am thought of. Getting on a certain bus stop without my husband led to those assumptions I must be a single mother.
I live in a council estate therefore
I must get benefits
I don’t work
I don’t own my property
I don’t have an education past GCSE’s
All above are elements that others attach to a council estate create a stereotype that should have been phased out a long time ago. And I am getting tired of it.
(Not that it matters but I have child benefit and have had tax credits, I have worked since I turned 16 and other than maternity leave have never had extended periods out of work, I have a mortgage on my property and we have spent time making the place nice, I have a degree.)
I work hard to keep my business going (employing 6 other mums too), I work hard to educate myself, to grow my own business, to provide for my family. To have a good life. Yes I live in an area where there are lots of council properties. Does that make me less of a person? No it doesn’t. In fact it makes me want to do well. It makes me strive for something more. No stereotypes in my home. Not at all.
So when you ask where I live, come to my home, when you see me get on that bus, why feel the need to judge?
Oh yes and to those workman outside my house fretting about what may or may not get nicked please mind your language. I am trying to teach my daughter how to read, how to write and most of all how to respect those living around you.